Chivalry is dead, I’m sad to say.
I blame the feminists. For their equal rights demands and glaring at any poor man who dares open a door for them. Now no man is chivalrous for fear of reprisals.
Which annoys the hell out of me.
Can we not have our cake and eat it too? Can we not have equal pay and gentlemen who are still willing to open doors for us and give up their seats on public transport?
Just this morning, as I left the supermarket laden with shopping bags, a suited man, on the phone, approached the automatic doors at the same time as me. There was that brief moment when we both slowed our pace, and I waited, expectantly, to see if he would let me pass. Oh, no. He glanced at me, struggling with my heavy load, appraised the distance between him and the door and then literally shoved past me to get through first.
Could he be in such a hurry that he couldn’t pause for a mere second to let a woman pass? Or is that simply not a consideration for men anymore? I expect it with the younger generation, but this bloke was older than me; surely he should know better?
There has been, of course, instances when men have redeemed their sex by being chivalrous whilst in my presence. A few months ago I was on a train to London that was full to the brim; standing room only. One delightful man stepped up and offered me his seat. I was so touched at this gentlemanly act that I wanted to kiss him. I declined given that this man was much older than me, but I did so graciously, as I wanted him to know how kind it was for him to offer.
Yet this act is quite rare these days. Why is it that I am shocked and surprised when a man opens a door for me rather than be knocked out the way as I usually am? And why is it that I feel bad at expecting these small tokens of kindness from the opposite sex?
I am interested to hear the opinions from my male readers. Do you still act chivalrously towards women? Or has feminism stamped that out of you? Or, given that we now live in a world where the balance has most definitely swayed towards the female sex, is this something we should no longer expect?